Trust, the Foundation of any Healthy Relationship

Trust is probably the main foundation pillar of any relationship and you just need to listen to what it is which couples who have been in long term marriages are saying to be able to understand that this is true.

After all if there is no trust between you and your partner, how on earth can you expect to stand by one another and know that what you are sharing is real and worthwhile hanging onto? For any relationship to truly work to its full potential you will need to have absolute trust in your partner and their actions as this is the person you envision yourself spending the rest of your life with.

When one looks at the concept of trust, you come to realize that trust is something which is earned and can not simply be expected. It all goes about creating a safe emotional environment for your partner where they feel safe to share everything with you in the knowledge that you will not use their sharing with you so as to cause them emotional harm. If you are able to do this, your partner will know that they can be comfortable to truly be themselves around you.

Here are a few pointers so as to help you to better the trust in your relationship or so as to help you be able to re-establish trust if this should be needed.

In Long Term Relationships

Critical communication – Far too often in long term relationships couples forget how to communicate effectively as they simply take for granted that due to familiarity, their partner should be able to know what it is which is going on inside their head, but this is not always the case.

Be sure to keep the lines of communication wide open between you and your partner, you should have the knowledge and desire to share everything with your partner as far as your emotions, desires, dislikes and beliefs go and every other aspect of what you need to be happy.

However you will also need to learn how to listen and not interrupt your partner when they are trying to communicate this information to you. Be sure to listen and understand what it is which they are trying to say to you and always take their opinion and emotions into account before responding.

Always support your partner positively – When in public and when at home try to be positively critical about your partner as this establishes trust as they will realize that they can rely on you no matter what the situation is.

This is especially important when you are together in public, always try to be sure that what you are saying about your partner is positive while in public company as this allows them to see that you truly have their best interest at heart, however if you have negative criticism for things which your partner might be saying or doing, keep it for the home where you can both discuss what it is that they might be doing or saying which might conflict with your way of thought, but try not to let it come out in front of others before you have discussed it with your partner.

Disagree constructively – Rather than using “you” terms when there is conflict, rather try to use “I” terms, in other words instead of saying “You are smothering me emotionally” rather say “I am beginning to feel emotionally smothered”, immediately this takes the aggression out of your statement and avoids your partner feeling threatened or blamed.
Never sleep on a disagreement – This is probably the most important piece of advice when it comes to long term relationships and trust. Always try your utter best to sort out any differences of opinion which you and your partner might have before going to sleep at night, or at least try to find a peaceful compromise where you might choose to agree to disagree.

For Couples just Starting Out

Be punctual – Always do your best to be on time as this shows that you are reliable and this in turn builds trust. If for some or other reason you see that you will not be able to keep to the scheduled appointment, be sure to let your partner know on time as this too helps to establish trust.
Keep to your promises – If you promise your partner that you will do something, be true to your word as this too goes a long way when it comes to establishing initial trust.
Do not internalize all of your feelings – If you truly see this person as someone you want to share your life with, you will firstly need to give some trust before you will receive it in return. Taking the time to share your feelings with your partner will often help them to realize that they too can trust you and be open and honest with you. Trust is a two way street so if you expect your partner to begin to trust you, you will also need to learn how to trust them.

These are just a few ways for you to be able to establish trust in your relationship with your partner and believe me a relationship which is built on mutual trust is far stronger than those without it.

At the end of the day, probably the best way to establish trust and a healthy relationship is to apply the Kaizen Principle to the family or emotional areas of your Wheel of Life, in other words to constantly and with constant improvement try to be the best companion for your partner as you both walk down the road of life together. By doing this you will be sure that you are always improving on your best and benefiting yourself and your partner by doing so.

I personally take the Kaizen Principle into account in every aspect of my life and it has shown me a life full of harmony and abundance in all areas, you might want to try it and let me know through your comments how it has made a difference in your life.

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