How to Build Loving Bonds with your Children which Last Forever

 Many of us are so focused on financial survival or success that we often neglect to give adequate attention and time to our children and other family members. As I explain to all my Alchemist Mentorship students, wealth is about more than just money, it is about well being and this is the reason I base any persons wealth on the Kaizen Wealth Principle, which encourages well being in all areas of life so as to have a life of abundance.

• Listen, listen, listen – Always be sure to actually listen to what it is which your children are telling you, not just hear what they are saying, but listen to what they are saying and understand why they are saying it. The minute your children are able to feel that what they are saying is being understood and taken note of, the more they will feel they can share with you and this goes a long way towards building trust and open lines of communication.

• Show them respect – Always treat your children with the same amount of respect which you would want them to show you, this way they will be able to learn from you that by giving respect you are far more likely to gain respect and this is a very helpful way of developing strong bonds with them as bonds are based on love and respect.

• Teach gratitude by showing it – Even if within you, you might be feeling very grateful for your children and what they mean to you, it is not enough to simply feel it, you need to express it as well so that they are aware of it. In doing so you will also be teaching them how to be grateful and strengthening the love and respect between you all and teaching them how to appreciate and show appreciation for that which others do for them.

• Unconditional love – Always be sure to keep your children secure in the knowledge that you love them unconditionally, even if you might be upset by their behavior or actions and have told them so, be sure to stipulate and reassure them that it has no effect on the amount that you love them but that it is rather their actions or behavior which is upsetting you.

• Boost them at every opportunity – Be sure that when they are trying to do something that you encourage them passionately and sincerely. If you see the challenge has got them a bit stumped, take the opportunity to step up and give them a helping nudge. I am by no means saying you should do everything for them, but nudge them in the right direction and boost them with kind words of encouragement.

• Have family time– Make a point of having specific times where the family does things together as a unit, so as to help strengthen the bonds between you all. A good idea might be to let each member of the family take a turn to decide what it is that you all are going to do on these occasions. This will go a long way towards building memories and bonds together.

• Daily time together – Be sure to take time out of your schedule to spend with your children so that you are aware of what it is that is happening in their lives and how they are emotionally. Be sure to give them your full attention in this time so that they are reassured of your interest in them and what they are going through or experiencing in life.

• Build their confidence – Be sure to constantly remind your children that they can achieve anything which they set their minds to, begin to teach them goal setting techniques from an early age and the correct way to go about achieving these goals. By doing this you will help to build their self confidence and teach them how to get what they are aiming for through effective goal setting and self motivation.