In our modern times it is very seldom that one has the choice when it comes to the decision of being either a business woman or a full time mom. With ever increasing living costs and inflation, many households are simply not able to function on one individual income.
This quite often poses as quite a dilemma as the new mother has to face feelings of guilt when it comes to raising her child, but this need not necessarily be the case. Often working moms will feel that they are robbing their child of the time which they should be spending together by pursuing her career, but the truth of the matter is that times are changing and along with these changes come other adaptations which compensate for the sacrifices which we need to make.
The fact of the matter is that in times gone by when being a stay at home mom was the norm, there were very few facilities such as daycare as they were not needed. But in our modern time such facilities are widely available and the plus point to such facilities is that our children are learning to effectively socialize with others at a far earlier stage in life and are getting the necessary priming which they will need to enter the schooling system as functional individuals.
Times are changing constantly and so to must our ways of looking at life, considering that both parents are working, it is also imperative that we should realize that the raising of the children is no longer solely the task of the mother, but should rather be a team effort of both parents.
Keep to the Schedule
To effectively handle the stress levels of being a working mom you will have to have a definite schedule as this makes it easier for both you and the child to understand what is happening and when it must happen. Not only will this make your life easier but it will begin to get your child into a routine which has been proven to greatly help with the child’s sense of security which is essential.
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Morning Planning – Be sure to know what the morning routine is as this can often be a very stressful time for both mother and child. If possible try to get the clothing for the next day, daycare bags and any other items which you might deem necessary ready the night before, this way you avoid the morning rush which can quite often become chaotic if left to the last minute.
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Share Responsibilities – If you and your spouse are both working during the day, then it is only fair that you should both be working when it comes to raising the children. Try to make a compromise and share the daily duties so far as possible when it comes to getting yourselves and the children ready for the day.
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Keep a Family Planner – Be sure to keep some sort of family planner were important events and dates can be listed so that you do not loose track of what it is which needs to be done. This planner could be kept in the kitchen or where ever it is that you all will be sure to see it.
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Flexibility – The actual secret to being a working mom lies within flexibility, you will soon realize that more often than not, things do not go according to plan. Now you can either allow this to become a major stress generator in your life or you can learn the art of being flexible, learn how to reshuffle the schedule and make last minute changes work so as to avoid stress in the household.
Remain Involved
Far too often the working mother will feel that she is not spending enough quality time with the little one, but this need not be the case. This however can be overcome by making the time which you do have to spend with your child truly quality time and by doing so you will very much remain involved in the happenings of your child’s life.
In fact if you take the time to simply sit down and chat to your child when they come home from daycare about what happened in their day, it can often be a very intense and exciting time as you both get to share on a very personal level exactly what it was that filled your days and this can actually develop into a very bonding routine.
Pamper Yourself
This is an essential if you want to avoid the working mom burnout, you must be sure to allow time in your schedule to just relax and have a bit of ‘me time’. Try to organize at least one day a month which consists of your ‘me time’, which might involve going to a day spa or going for a foot massage. No matter how you decide to use this time, it is essential that you do not neglect yourself and that very necessary break.
Remember your Relationship
Very often we will be so involved in raising our children that we actually begin to neglect our partner, this is not only the responsibility of the working mom but that of dad as well. Be sure to make time for your partner where the children are not involved, it might be once they have gone to bed or are away at friends, but be sure to take the time to spend personal and communication time with one another as without these the vast majority of marriages will not make the grade and follow the ever increasing trend which causes so much pain in modern society in the form of divorce.
These are but a few pointers which might help you to understand that you are not alone as a working mom. If things truly begin to get out of hand and the stress is really beginning to get to you, why not try the Bagha as an instantaneous relaxation method. If you have any further tips I would love to hear what they are.
