Have you possibly noticed that it all of a sudden feels to you as if your partner is unable to understand you? Do you feel that the lines of effective communication are now not what they used to be? If so, don’t worry, this is a growing norm and if you use the correct methods you will be able to rectify it reasonably quickly.
I personally choose to apply the Kaizen Principle to every aspect of my life as this helps me to remain on course as a Wealth Creator. This effectively means that I strive on a never ending basis to improve on my best and this applies to my relationships as well as all of the other areas of my life.
By simply applying this strategy or principle, it becomes easier for me to keep the lines of communication between my partner and I in the best possible condition, but if you have not yet discovered the amazing secrets contained in achieving a life filled with Kaizen Wealth and abundance, then here are a few tips as to how you can improve your lines of communication with your partner so as to have a harmonious household.
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Learn to listen attentively – Learn the art of active listening, many people think that simply because they are hearing what the other person is saying they are listening, this however is not the case. Take the time and put in the effort to actually listen to what it is that is being said to you, both verbally and nonverbally.
Take note of the body language which they are using and try to understand the cause behind what they are saying. It might be that there is a hidden message or cry for attention or help in what they are saying. Always do your best to repeat a summarized version of what it is you heard and understood to them so as to avoid unnecessary miscommunication.
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Discuss rather than argue – At all costs try to avoid arguing over things, rather take the time and energy not to let your emotions rule the conversation, but rather try to discuss the issue or problem in a constructive way. The moment this discussion turns into and argument, no body wins and the harmony you are seeking in your home goes flying out the door. Never allow these discussions to take place when emotions and tempers are flaring, rather take a five minute time out to regain composure so that you are both able to discuss the topic in a constructive and rational manner.
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Remain focused – Try to keep the topic focused on the issue at hand, avoid letting it flare out in all directions and encompass a whole host of issues. Consciously try to keep the topic focused on the issue which needs to be resolved and avoid moving on until you have been able to do so. Always try to sort one issue out at a time or come to the conclusion that you are happy to agree to disagree.
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Avoid accusations – Always try to avoid accusation type statements as they are the fuel to the fire which drives an argument. Many times things can be solved far more peacefully when we realize that the way we choose to approach a subject or problem has a great effect on the result which we will achieve.
Always try to refrain from making ‘you’ statements and try to make more ‘I’ statements. For instance, instead of saying “You never give me space to breathe” you could rather say “I feel as if you are not giving me space to breathe”. By doing this you are changing your tone from one of blame to one of personal feeling, which is far less likely to escalate a conversation into an argument.
These are just a few pointers which will be able to make the world of difference when it comes to the communication between you and your partner and the harmony in your home. Try them and you will be able to see an almost instantaneous difference and in the process will bring a far more positive atmosphere into your home.
At the end of the day it all goes about respect, the ability to respect your partner, their opinions and the fact that they too are an individual. The moment you realize this, you will realize that from time to time it is alright to agree to disagree and that this respect will enable you to accept that you are different people sharing a bond of love and that your being together and happiness should be determined by your feelings for one another and not your difference of opinions.
Good communication is the foundation of any relationship, so take the time to put in the effort to make it as harmonious and enjoyable as possible by learning to communicate effectively.