Being assertive and confident are very valuable traits to have as the more assertive and confident you are in any situation, the more likely people will be to sit up and take notice. You will then be able to voice your opinion or let others know what it is that you need done by actually knowing yourself and what it is that you are capable of.
Confidence is a character trait which one develops when they believe in themselves and what it is that they are doing, so in order to develop this trait you truly need to know yourself and your capabilities. There are definite ways for anyone to be able to truly get to know and understand themselves, this is why I developed the Kaizen Wealth Program, and once they are able to connect to who they really are it is self explanatory that confidence comes with it.
Being able to be both confident and assertive will greatly help you when it comes to job interviews or business deals as you will be able to let the person you are dealing with that you are in control of your life and are able to speak with authority on topics which you have studied and understand. It also gives of an air of you “are secure and know what you are doing” when you are speaking to the other person.
Here are a couple of tips which will help you to become more assertive and confident, apply them to your life and you will be sure to begin developing these skills so as to have a far more sought after attitude in the business world and in life in general.
- Be sure to know the difference between assertive and aggressive – When people listen to you, you want it to be out of respect and not fear. There is a vast difference between an assertive person and a person who comes across as being aggressive.
Aggression will often come through due to harsh criticism and threatening statements, whereas assertiveness is far more likely to come across as a strong point of view but it is backed by ways by which improvements could be made and is never directly aimed at any individual.
Always try to approach those you are dealing with, with a positive attitude and possible solutions to the problems at hand. To be able to get your point across you need not adopt an aggressive attitude, rather opt for the far more amiable assertive and positive attitude.
- Make your voice heard – Once again, please do not understand me incorrectly here, this does not mean you should walk around shouting at everyone, it simply means that you will need to speak with authority so as to portray an image of being assertive and confident.
So when you do talk be sure to speak clearly, at a normal pace and in an authoritive tone, this will make people think you know what you are talking about and are completely in control of what is going on around you.
- Don’t be shy – Many people may be in complete control of the situation at hand, but the fact that they are shy portrays an image of incompetence or not knowing what to say, this can be a very debilitating attribute to have in the business world and one which you will need to work on to be rid of.
There are many ways one can work on overcoming shyness and to actively practice things like visualization, speaking and mental exercises which encourage a positive mindset, will do wonders to help a shy person to get out of their shell.
When I first decided to start teaching people through means of my Property Pro Investment Seminars, I was very worried as to whether I would be able to do it, but then the Wealth Creator mentality kicked in and I knew it would be alright, I am now a few years down the line and believe it or not, I thrive on being up in front of a group of people and supplying them with dynamic knowledge which has the power to change their lives forever. You see, the more you face your fears, the less fearful they become.
- Invest in yourself – This as I teach all of my Wealth Creator Mentorship students is one of the vital laws which we need to obey so as to be able to succeed in life, take the time to learn what it is that you are talking about so as to be able to instill the confidence within yourself to be able to speak with authority.
If you know what you are talking about it is far easier to be confident and assertive as you have all the facts to back you up, far too many people want to invest in financial endeavors, businesses and all the rest but they forget to take the time to invest in themselves.
- Look to those you admire and respect – If someone has earned your admiration and respect, chances are that they have learned how to be assertive and confident, by watching how they act, speak and their body language, you will soon be able to recognize the traits you need to work on so as to be like them.
Once you are able to master being assertive and confident, you will find that achieving your life goals becomes far easier, apply the Kaizen Principle to your efforts and take it one step at a time but be sure that your main aim is constant and never ending improvement and very soon you will have all it takes to be assertive and confident enough to get ahead in life.